She has told me she made a huge mistake and really regrets it and I believe her. I'm confused, not about the forgiveness because I know she is very sorry and will never do this again. I was angry at her because I know alcohol is not an excuse, but I think it was 90% his fault and 10% hers. I knew he took advantage of her because she was drunk but is that rape? I'm 100% sure that things will work out as soon as she comes back but now I am thinking what to do about this guy. We both realize that we will grow stronger and our love will be stronger after all this. Is she a victim and doesn't realize it or is that the remorse because it was consensual?Īfter much soul searching I am going to give it a second try and forgive her and work this out. She says it wasn't rape but I am not convinced.

She was not falling down drunk but was stumbling. The guy knew she was happily married and I feel he took advantage of her. She didn't want to lose me and is begging for forgiveness for her mistake. She confessed as soon as I came home and broke down crying. I am thinking that he took advantage of her, she would never ever cheat on me and is very remorse about the whole thing. One thing led to the next and he put a dvd in the room to watch it, he made the first move and then they had sex. She then awoke later in the night because the music was loud and she started talking and drinking more with the room mate. She was heavily drinking and doing shots but then went to sleep in one of the room mates bedroom. I completely trusted my wife and although I knew she might drink I didn't think anything would happen.Įnded up she slept with one of her room mates. Her female friend invited her to place for a party. I was away for the weekend to the east coast.

Wife had one night stand